What can people consider as factors that make sex dirty? These are things which most probably vary from person to person as much as the essence of morality does.
Most of us are fascinated with famous people’s lives. Lately, famous sex scandals have been getting the most buzz. We know that every day witnesses disgraceful actions being done by different people but it’s another thing when men’s visual pleasures are being catered to by a two-time FHM Philippines’ Sexiest Filipina who debuted in showbiz as a wholesome runner up of the first batch of StarStruck contenders.
Meeting Hayden may not have been a disaster for Katrina Halili until skeletons he placed in her closet became her worst nightmare. These aroused various reactions especially since no less than the Senate is feasting on what was bared for public scrutiny:
Is someone famous really worth looking up to when he/she after all engages in behavior grossly improper for someone single?
Is the country’s law-making body’s indulgence in the controversy drawing the people’s attention away from issues which have more significant effects on their lives?
Will this hopefully pave the way for laws to protect women against such form of defamation?
Which politicians are feasting on dirty linens exposed in public when their own have well been locked up safely in their own closets?
Does it matter more ‘who took the footage’ than ‘who engaged in grossly improper behavior’?
When a woman participates willingly (and exhibiting a great performance at that) in such act, does it make her the victim if she cries ‘foul’ on national television after her misconduct has been viewed countless times on the internet?
Some say who can blame a girl who has been betrayed either by someone she once loved and trusted or someone she only had an affair with… but can a relationship (even when it’s) based on love justify sex out of wedlock?
These can give us a few points to ponder upon:
Famous people we look up to may not always deserve the high regard we give them after all. No matter how they try to display a clean and wholesome public image, there may be times they won’t differ from the ordinary people who engage in outrageous behavior. The latter just enjoy anonymity though so their own deeds are less likely to damage their reputation through public disclosure (less people know them or bother to follow their updates). It doesn’t mean that somebody famous and with a wholesome image is indeed wholesome through and through. Same way as there are times ordinary people do commit equally (or more) disgraceful actions. We’re not here to judge or condemn Katrina. Not even Hayden. It’s just that fame has a price. Intimate moments meant to be shared by lovers in secret could have harsh repercussions which could haunt someone famous longer than it does others who are not in the spotlight. For people who strive to hone ‘such skills’ for fame and money, it’s no wonder they sometimes get their share of these things in the most painful way they could ever imagine. In the mere pursuit of a moment’s sexual pleasure, who would have thought two people could get much more than what they bargained for?
Soon as I got home from a friend’s wedding just recently, many things kept running through my mind no matter how exhausted I felt. The perennial microphone jockey of wedding ceremonies. Can’t complain. I’d do anything for people who matter much to me especially on their wedding day (except
dance on a live wire while eating fire). It’s truly amazing when we personally witness the unfolding of another great love story that ends in an altar date. I just love happy endings. Not every girl gets to have her share of fairy tale in this lifetime but we can always peek into real-life samples occasionally.
It was difficult trying to orchestrate the occasion in an exemplary fashion when there is too much personal involvement in it. Reflecting on the couple’s love story to figure out things to say which will help brighten my ad libs, I was also wondering how many among those present might have noticed tiny details which have escaped the attention of most wedding guests.
Over the past decade, has the internet technology strengthened or ruined more relationships in any way? Were there ever times we secretly wish life to be simpler like when there was no internet yet? Just like wishing that the moon hasn’t lost its magic over lovers after man has turned it into just another landing space? Or we are all so hooked into the internet that we could hardly get by without it even in such simple tasks as managing our household? Ugh… a lot of weird ideas shoved themselves into my mind that lovely evening of their wedding even as I was on the mic.
Theirs was one long distance friendship which evolved into a deeper relationship. Many may have found their luck from social networks and dating sites but this duo found themselves thru a common friend and were introduced online. After months of online dating, they finally met and the guy, not wanting to waste his time, immediately expressed his intention of marrying the girl. Just as expected. My friend was indeed bride material in all aspects.
The wedding took place a year after that first meeting. They were embarking on a marriage set up quite similar to many, including mine. Back then, I thought I wasn’t cut out for a long distance relationship. Having an OFW partner is tough. I know my friend, the bride, knew what she was getting into but I was still secretly hoping she was also a hundred percent prepared for it. To counter the pangs of separation, I’d joke when somebody asks how it feels to be left behind, “Can’t complain. Husband is good but we need cash.” I always have this ready answer but deep inside, reality bites. If only they could see the desperate attempt to treat the matter lightly by trying to inject humor into serious stuff. (Wish I’d perfected the ability to laugh at my own jokes.) We marry cause we want to spend if possible everday of our lives with the person of our choice but why can’t things always stay that way? Perhaps if we married solely for money, it won’t matter that much. At times we need a comforting hug or a reassuring kiss, how much money could compensate for these when we need them most? And worse, we never know if kids feel worse than we already do.
The rewarding part of personally witnessing that union was that the charming couple were a walking testimony of love that has conquered boundaries not just of physical distance but of differences in several aspects which could have posed a threat to ordinary couples. Love for them wasn’t just a feeling. It was a decision. They translated it into action. Intimacy, passion and commitment were vital ingredients of what they were starting to cook up.
Ah, pag-ibig na makapangyarihan… hahamakin ang lahat, masunod ka lamang! To my newlywed friends: “On behalf of the Married Society of the City of Iligan, WELCOME TO THE CLUB!”